18 NovMy Boy


I seriously need help.

My 3 y/o boy is such a crybaby.  A contrast to his 4y/o sis.  Why he became like that?  OK.. let’s get down the memory lane.  Kakak was inside me when i was happy, tough, who dares make me cross i’m gonna unleash my storm on that person… (err.. i kan storm wannabe.. storm x-men tu la dey!  not the 4WD!!).  kakak pernah duduk kat rumah babysitter so her biggest fear is being left at someone else’s house.  she is so afraid that i’m gonna abandon her.  And she can’t stand me raising my voice at her.. she will think that i don’t love her anymore.  Other than that, she’s compassionate, understanding, quick learner, ringan tulang.. lipat baju sendiri even masak pun nak tolong gak.  Kakak grew up with a complete mum and dad.

Adik was inside me during the dark ages.. the non-stop crying, the feeling of hopelessness, the dangerous state of low self esteem, the turmoil..  dalam pantang, his incessant crying was one of the reasons i experienced post natal depression.  Adik was taken care by grandmas and grandpa, never have to experience life at babysitter’s house, but he lived nomad style.. one week with mum, one week with dad, never exactly felt what its like to have mum and dad together.  It’s always the three of us since he was a year old.  Thus he looked up to us and always want to be a part of us.

He’s adorable.. with dimple and cleft chin and chatterbox mouth.  But if you call him handsome he will object..  he said “adik lawa”.  Coz umi and kakak lawa so he demand people say him lawa as well.  If he gaduh dengan kakak, he’s the one ended up crying altho he’s the one starting the trouble first!  Even when kakak ejek pun he will cry!  Ngengada btui!  Kakak will only cry if adik hits her so hard or if adik says that he didn’t love her.

Last nite i lost my control.  He merajuk coz we didn’t want to watch otomen with him.  I ignored him and tried to sleep but he threw things at me.  At first it was a paper then he picked up topi kakak and try to throw but i scolded him.  And there goes his cry at the top of his voice.  I hate men crying.. gosh, hate it so much!  At first just threaten him with the cane but he didn’t stop so i started caning him.  Adala segarit merah.. ish.. i felt so bad..  finally, i lock him out of bedroom for 1 minute then only he stop.  But he retaliate by refusing to answer my question whether he wants milk or not.

That does it… i couldn’t stand anymore and i shook him.  Suddenly the memory of his incessant crying during confinement came rushing back and i stopped, broke down and cried.  I hugged him and he hugged back.  Even when he has stopped crying, i couldn’t stopped mine coz i’ve had that memory locked away.  When suddenly the door swung open, i need a bit of time to shut it back or at least dealt with that.

His new daddy has highlighted the matter that he doesn’t want adik to become sissy and he doesn’t have much patience.  Neither was his real dad though.  ~sigh~ .  The good thing though, adik’s loyalty always goes to me compared to kakak’s. She’s more a daddy’s girl.

Adik is a collateral damage of my own doing.  So please help me how to deal with his attitude.  I didn’t see being angry helps much.  Being loving pulak will only spoilt him more. 

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590 Responses to “My Boy”

  1. tunang kucing api - kucing parsi says:

    ABG!!!! naper abg kupi main selak kain ni!!!! menchi tawww!!! huk huk huk…

    ooooo itu keje abg kupi yer!! skodeng mak dara org…abg ckp abg sibuk banyak keje takleh dating..mentang2 la ii mkn banyak friskies abg nk save budjet la tuh!! sampai ati abg!!

    tak penah selak kain org kunun.. yg selak kain masa ziarah org mati umah nenet ii tu haper.. bukan selak ker?? huh abg kupi dah berubah!!! menchii menchii menchiiii

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  2. kucing api says:

    erk.. alamak tunang datang sergah wakakaka..

    tunangku kucing parsi, bukan berdosa pun nak ikut jejak langkah tok ddeka wakakaka..

    abg ensem? hehehe.. lobang hidung tgh kembang mcm wan kembang ni.. hehehe..

    adeh sapa plak ni? hehehe

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  3. hati berlian jadi firestone says:

    dak aihh mami, ceq tak tarik pun sanggui mami, ceq nak kebas abuk…mami mami…bila mai nak kasi gelang emas 24K mami tu kat ceq ??? ceq duk tungguuuuu la , kasi la mami…mami cun, jelita, vogue…

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  4. kucing api says:

    tunangku kucing parsi, abg tak salah.. mak dara sini yg rekemenkan, abg tak pi cari pun tau wakakaka…

    ayang dah makan gourmet food yg abg antar hari tu? takkan kucing BE atau DS dah songlap dulu?

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  5. batik says:

    ala mami ni… aku dah setat tenyeh toilet dah dari semalam… dah oda nasik beriyani pokcik tapah tu haa khas tuk mami baek punya.. omeh takleh beli kebahagiaan mami… mai le sini sedekah omeh kat kami…

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  6. batik says:

    terketaq ketaq lutut kupi kena sergah hah!!

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  7. wan kembang says:

    oi…aku idup lagik tau!
    jgn wat tak nampak plak.

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  8. hati berlian jadi firestone says:

    kembang ko nih tenggelam timbul la….meh la join…

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  9. wan kembang says:

    aku tengok je korang tiap ari….. tetiba jadik pemalu lak…. kalo ada chat room lelaju kan best…. kat depan tuh semput je aku nengok.

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  10. wan kembang says:

    ok aku nak tenggelam balik….. korang cari lah tmpt lepak best sket…. laju dan efisyen… peh tuh bagitau aku …aku mai sana. hehe

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  11. hati berlian jadi firestone says:

    ((((( wan kembanggggg!!!!! )))))

    ((((( don go!!!!!!! )))))

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  12. batik says:

    wekh kembang… ko ni lepeh beranak tak kempis balik ke? ayoyo.. amma…

    kupi.. baru aku perasan kupi said “tunangku kucing parsi…”
    cheii… ko dah tunang ker? ngaku available… dasar kucing jantan!!

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  13. batik says:

    wah… blog ni dah langkau secret recipe aku!! aku takmo tulis ape-ape dah… kita pun pandai menchi-menchi ni tawww….!!!

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  14. hati berlian jadi firestone says:

    aku pon takmo tulis ape ape dah…

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  15. hati berlian jadi firestone says:

    kan batin eh silap batik kannnnn…kannn kannn….

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  16. ronel mek donel says:

    aku pun xmo tulis pape gak.. hikhikhik…

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  17. ronel mek donel says:

    ni aku tulih ni last ni taw.. tawww taww…

    eh lupo nak jawab hat kupi… owhhhh bukan ko ke kupi… baguih ler.. sbb menchik tui mamat tu dok tonung2 songih2 cam nak tolan org…

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  18. otai kayo lemon says:

    oh weh.. esei baru mari.. ekau org dh lari..

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  19. batik says:

    yg dok tenung hang tu pokcik ajiz misai melenting tu kot… ei udoh… aku seriyus takmo tulis ape-ape…menchi!! betui ni tak mo tulis.. aku nak chow dah ni… tangan aku dah babai-babai dah nih…

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  20. ronel mek donel says:

    bai bai bai babai kat batik..
    wei bukak ar umah baru….
    lotih dok nunggu umah bukak pintu dah ni ha..
    yuhuuu otai mano poie…
    org sumo da abih mesuarat tingkap..

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  21. batik says:

    tulah… aku ingat nak wat rumah baru tp pocik azhan tak betuikan lagi kolum kat depan tu… kang sesat je nak mai rumah aku… aku mogok takmo buat rumah lagi….

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  22. ronel mek donel says:

    alaaaa.. wat jek.. nanti sesapa nak tgk updet blog klik jek kat archive-december tu.. aku mogok… aritu dah wat pehtu kena dilit.. huhuhuhuhu.. uwaaaaaa!

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  23. hati berlian jadi firestone says:

    aku pon takmoh tulis apa apa dah…takmau takmau takmau

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  24. hati berlian jadi firestone says:

    eh jap…nak babai kat batin eh silap heh heh…batin tu sapa ntah…aku nak babai kat batik…

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  25. batik says:

    aku pong babai balik kat hang bolian..
    eh, awat kena dilit? sape kutu belahak yg dilit tu? ke ko dilit sendiri?
    aku tanya bebanyak sebab takmo tulis lagi dah… las soklan dari aku tu…

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  26. hati berlian jadi firestone says:

    aku takmo tulis lagi dah, tapi jari jemariku ug runcing lagi manicured baekkk punya nih gatal2 jugak nak ketuk kibod…ya ampun ibukkk

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  27. batik says:

    aku tak penah menikio… kang sayang kuku punya pasai sumer mende aku takmo buat… besh ke manikio? package facial aku ada free menikio tapi dok tunggu taim nak pi meminang menantu ke… baru aku guna… heh heh… sebab tu aku babai je kat bolian.. salam takmo.. kang kuku aku rosak..

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  28. otai kayo lemon says:

    esei buka blog lah..

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  29. hati berlian jadi firestone says:

    kihkihkih…mano la esei nak meniko pediko nehhhh…errr…potong kuku kira meniko ke idok ??? esei nih pantang bona eh kalau kuku panjang, mulo la tak lalu makan nasik..esei relo pi potong kuku dulu dari makan nasik ngan kuku panjang….
    Otai dah bukak umah baru ko ???

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  30. otai kayo lemon says:

    esei dah buka umah baru..

    http://blog.dcckmona.com/kehidupan/376/dan-bulan-pun-tersenyum.html

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  31. macik bling bling says:

    sapa yg bela kuku pnjg tu sure tk baca psl artikel dlm tred tempek2 tu

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  32. hati berlian jadi blue diamond says:

    kuku kita pendek sokmo, kalau panjang kita tak lalu nak makan nasik, rasa semacam jer…yucks!

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  33. kucing api says:

    bolian palsu berangan nak jdi blue diamond, haram tu simpan kuku panjang.. lelaki dan perempuan hehehe..

    eden pornah terbaco satu hadith tu..

    baguih la teruskan potong kuku pendek..

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  34. kucing api says:

    iyo ko org tu mcm nak makan ko? wah..

    tapi sbb eden ni resmi malu2 kucing tapi mau, eden tak le mcm tu.. eden skodeng dari jauh jo..

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  35. tunang kucing api - kucing parsi says:

    hilloooo hilllooo… oh my godness where have yeww olls been??..dah pindah kat dancing moon ker.. kejap i pun nk pegi sana gak, kang tunang i abg kupi mengalak kat sana maklumla bulan mengambang..

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  36. wan kembang says:

    korang pi tengok aku ceramah kat depan sanun…. cari sampey dapek.

    peh beranak menda lain lak yang kembang…itu yang tak kempish2 tuh… ahak ahakkkk

    nih pun last komen gak!

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  37. tiit says:

    preettttt!! waktu lunch

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  38. serifajar says:

    testing..

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  39. serifajar says:

    la ada napasss lagikk ropenya blog ni..nampak kat luar cam dah kojoiii.. letih lagikkk mata ku nak baco ni..hek..hek..hek

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  40. muit says:

    ellooo

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